Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Emotional Assault: Recognizing an Abusive Partner's Bag of Tricks Book Review
When most people think of abuse, images of domestic violence come to mind. However, there is a much more subtle form of abuse that takes place in many marriages and intimate relationships today that also deserve recognition. Emotional abuse is difficult to overcome because it is often impossible to identify. While domestic abuse is tragic, there is no denying the bruises and broken bones that occur as a result. Emotional abuse, on the other hand, is often referred to as invisible abuse because there are no physical scars. This leaves the victim in a perpetual state of confusion and self-blame.
In this book, author Lisa Kroulik identifies eight common tactics that emotionally abusive people use to control their partners, such as giving the silent treatment or playing the victim. Ms. Kroulik uses examples from her relationship with her former husband to help readers name abusive tactics in their own relationships. As she states in the introduction to this book, knowledge is power. After identifying a trait of emotionally abusive partners, Ms. Kroulik goes on to offer suggestions on how to confront it. She makes it clear that confronting the behavior may not make it stop and that each woman needs to decide for herself if her relationship is worth saving.
The second section of Emotional Assault helps the reader assess her current relationship and provides resources should she decide to end it. It is a hopeful, engaging book that empowers emotionally abused women to change their lives. The author is living proof that it is possible to learn from the abusive relationship and make better choices the next time around. She has been happily remarried for three years to a man she refers to as the anti-narcissist.
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Many people don't realize that emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. But abuse is abuse in any kind of way. I loved that the author of this book uses her own experience with her ex husband to show examples of different "tricks" and abuser will use. The abuser will usually play the victim and make you feel guilty for whatever it is that they are doing. This book is very helpful if you feel you might be emotionally abused and might help you decide if you should stay in your relationship or not. I think if more women speak out about what they are going through it might help out others that are going through the same thing. Even though I am not being emotionally abused and hopefully it won't happen I'm glad I read this book because I feel like I learned a few of the tricks I should watch out for.
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Posted by Joana Arteaga